If you've been dating a while, I'm sure at one time or another you been given the dating advice "just be yourself and someone will come along..."

 

The philosophy behind "Just Be Yourself" is that if you just be yourself people will naturally be attracted to you, naturally love you for who you are and naturally want to be with you and that you do not have to do anything out of “character" to attract or be loved.

The irony is that many frustrated, lonely and depressed singles have spent pretty much all of their lives "just being themselves" and gotten nowhere at all with the opposite sex.

Here’s the thing.

On a surface level, your whole agenda is to BE and DO only what is natural to who you honestly believe yourself to be. But on a deeper level, you’ve got your own little filters through which you interact with the world around you. You have all these little computer-like programs that have pretty well programmed you to be for example, self-centered and selfish (thinking of just yourself), aggressive, defensive and passive (insecure), stick to a well programmed set of ruled and norms (be boring), uptight and sexually repressed etc. It’s true that you are “just being yourself" and just being the “real you" but this is the faultily programmed you.

If you really want to begin attracting a special man or woman into your life with very little conscious effort, you have to re-program your Hard Drive and Install new programs that work for you rather than against you.

 

Be honest with yourself and put in some serious effort into becoming the very BEST YOU; an improved, happier and self-fulfilled you. Once you’ve allowed your inner and outer magnificence to shine with all honesty and authenticity, begin getting ideas for how to present that very BEST YOU to the world. Presenting the BEST YOU is about giving yourself every possible advantage while remaining true to your values and vision for a fulfilling life.
 

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