A couple of days without a phone call or message from a person you had a great date with and you begin to wonder what is happening. One more day and you begin to really get upset. Why won 't they call and why won 't they return your call even if only to say “I did not feel any sparks”.

I hate to be the one to tell you this. It 's not them you really are upset with, it 's you. You are upset that someone else has that much control over your feelings, and even your life.

You are upset that you have allowed them to upset you.

Okay. True this: Some people are naturally insensitive but what are you going to do about it?

Anyone seeking a fulfilling and exciting relationship with another person must first become aware of having feelings related to loneliness, abandon and lack of respect when they start creeping up. It really helps to ask yourself what you are feeling and how those feelings are being expressed (and projected) on to someone else.

It 's so easy to misinterpret and attribute intentions to other people that are not necessarily there. Making a clear distinction between your own emotions and those you attribute to others or what they really think and feel is the first step in reclaiming your power over how other people 's actions affect you. It 's a first step to becoming sensitive person (in a healthy). It 's also a first step in self confidence.

Not only do you need to know how to deal with such feelings but, being aware of them can be of great help to the men/women you meet by your consideration and concern in how and when you contact them after a date.