Just when you think you've finally made contact and he or she's responding to your emails and phone calls, your ex suddenly starts screening your calls and then answering them later or text messaging instead of calling back. Next thing you know, he or she isn't even answering your emails or text messages. But when you call him your ex, he or she seems very happy and the conversation is very friendly. But you never hear from him or her again. No text message, no emails, no phone calls, no nothing.

You call and he or she never picks up the phone, you leave messages and you never get a call back. After several calls and left messages, you finally get through. And surprise! He or she is very happy to hear from you and the conversation is again very friendly and even flirtatious. But deep inside you are going completely nuts because of your ex's game playing!

Men and women who actively or passively play these kinds of games do it for a (false) sense of power that thrives on exploiting people's fear of being deprived of something they need badly. By creating an artificial "scarcity" the person controls the one who fears being deprived.

If your ex still has residues of resentment and anger related to things that happened in the relationship or during and after the break-up he or she may not want to feel powerless and helpless again. By playing these games your ex is trying to see how much power/control he or she can have over you. The more high emotions followed by low emotions he or she can provoke in you -- regardless of which emotions are provoked -- the more power/control your ex feels he or she has over you.

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