Some people really get off bullying, intimidating and making fun of women (i.e. cocky and funny) in order to achieve dominance and pretend masculinity.

I have encountered so called PUAs a few times in my dating days and their modus operandi basically consisted of badgering, sarcasm, repetitive disagreement, disparaging humour, etc. Unfortunately though for these sexually insecure bullies, women like me don't find obnoxious nerds turned bullies very alluring. My favoured "return-fire-with-fire" weapon was sarcasm. Looking back (not proudly though) I know I scarred so many PUAs' self esteem. Karma does catch up with us all - now I find myself a Sexual Confidence Coach! The upside, I understand very well what "damage" women's words and actions can do to men.

Using, bullying, intimidation and making fun of women actually pisses off more women than attract them. It may look great in front of the PUA fraternity because it shows how you are progressing as a pickup artist, but where does that leave you as an individual, and as a pleasant man who wants to have a real relationship with a real pleasant woman?

In any event, using bullying and intimidation has inherent problems on two fronts. First, you must find something about the person to attack, but what if there is nothing to attack, you end up mostly trying this and trying that and making an idiot of yourself. Second, you must keep the "attack" going - find something to mock, make fun of etc. every time otherwise you lose your position of power. Believe it or not, the second of these tasks is more difficult. It is very difficult to continuously find something about someone that you can attack without the two of you clashing repeatedly, and sometimes hurtfully.

So why piss off so many women when you can make them walk around like they are out of it and return again and again for some more...

When it comes to sexual attraction, women are your most important allies not PUA fraternity boys, most of whom are running around like horny college kids who just found out there is more to sex than masturbation.

Remember the first golden rule - everyone wants and needs loving. How can you attack that? Understanding the strengths and weaknesses of your own "love style" as well as the love style of the woman you are interested in is the first and biggest steps toward success with women.

1. Observe - If you observe that she is not responding positively, seems bored and frustrated with the way you are showing her love, pinpoint the source of that resistance, boredom or frustration.

2. Relate - If she seems resistant to a certain way of doing, frustrated at the lack of progress in a certain area or if she's excited by a particular way of making love for example, try to put yourself in her shoes (this is where you feminine energy comes handy) and relate to her needs, her expectations, her motivations etc.

3. Focus - Focus on the situation and how you can get what you want while making sure she gets what she wants. The key is to recognize what to challenge, what to compromise on and what to ignore. Take it from a woman, there are some things we women will nag you about but deep down we don't really give a damn if you do it or ignore it - that's just how our hormones work (This is where I recommend reading my article - Women Have Issues Deal With That?)

4. Adapt - Finally, adapt to the changes that meet both of your goals. This may seem intuitive, but you'll find that different women have different "love styles" and respond differently to a man's expression of his love style. How you relate to and focus will depend on your own "love style".

Your reward for your ORFA (Observe, Relate, Focus and Adapt) will be increased success with women. You will be valued very highly for two reasons. First, you are very "NICE" (sensitive, thoughtful, gentle, empathetic, attentive and considerate) . Second, you're very "BAD" (all-round-smart, have a back-bone, are a challenge, fun, exciting and delicious!).

Do not allow society's imposed gender polarization to rob you of the fulfillment of a woman's love, trust and true pleasures. Reach out to the other camp and distinguish yourself from the other frustrated men playing pretend masculinity.