If you are a short guy having problems attracting women because you are conscious of your height, these 10 tips will increase your assertive confidence and may be even give you that sleek sex appeal.
Tip # 1 - Teach yourself to be comfortable with being short
This is hard for most short people to hear but there is no other way to put it. I've had several clients fire back at me when I tell them, being short is not really their major problem, lack of confidence is. "Would you date me?" is their usual retort and when I say "No" they come back with, "You see, even you admit you would not date a short guy". And some accuse me of being a "hypocrite."
But after they've let it all out, I tell them "I would not date you, not because you are short, but because you do not think you are desirable to begin with. You don't like yourself because of your height and you expect others to, isn't that asking too much of people?"
On average short guys tend to give up so easily because they begin the race with a defeatist attitude. Thinking that because you are short you are automatically disqualified by all women has nothing to do with reality. Look at Tom Cruise, Jamie Foxx, Bono (and the rest of U2, for that matter), Mel Gibson, Jermaine Dupree, Neyo, Simon Cowell of American Idol, Sylvester Stallone, etc. all these guys are short or average height (5'4'' to 5'9'') but loaded with confidence and sleek sex appeal.
Tip # 2 - Dress tall and Tip # 3 - Pay attention to your posture are common tips and many people have written about them.
Tip # 4 - Slow your pace when you walk into a room
How you enter a room makes a powerful statement about who you are and how you see yourself. Most short guys walk into a room scurrying as if they are running a way from something. This not only makes you appear less self-assured but also removes points from your perceived status. Instead walk into a room with the calm confidence of a rightful owner of a territory. Think of yourself as a lion, a king, a movie star or any other empowered person who suits your fantasy and embody that. You might even want to try practicing in front of a mirror just so you get it right ( I have a good exercise for this in the articles section of my website under Sexual Confidence - Power, Confidence & Sex Appeal!
Tip # 5 - Take a few risks and face new challenges with optimism
Instead of walking into a room and thinking - no woman will want to talk to me because I am short (you might think all that is hidden in your skull and not know that you are sending powerful vibes of insecurity through your personal energy) change your thinking to - who can I speak to, what interesting person will I meet today, what does she care about and how can I inspire her? Learn more about her and you'll strike an emotional chord. Focusing on making others feel good about themselves not only moves you away from focusing on what makes you feel bad about yourself but actually makes you feel good about yourself. And you never know what chemistry exists if you don't give it a shot.
Tip # 6 - Occupy and command the space around you
Tall people tend to command greater authority than short people because they occupy more space and because they have the perceived advantage of being able to see danger from a distance. A short man can have the same advantage if he knows how to occupy and command the space around him to his advantage.
For example when reserving a table for a date, try to reserve a table close to the wall facing the entrance. If possible book a corner location and then take the corner seat. The advantage is that you command excellent view of everything that is going on. Whether your date sits facing you or at right angle, you will occupy most of the field view. When someone's back faces the entrance, sub-consciously they feel "unsafe" because they have no way of knowing what is coming from behind them, and so rely on your face and body language to help them figure what is happening from behind them. With her back facing the door, you are being the guy who makes her feel safe - that is depending on how you play your body language.
Shrinking and disappearing into your seat is very, very bad body language. Wringing your hands or sweating profusely - no-no. Darting your eyes all over the place will make her nervous.
Tip # 7 - Give a great handshake (See article Creating Instant Attraction With A Handshake)
Tip # 8 - Lower the pitch of your voice
Studies on human courtship behaviour have shown that the lower the pitch of a man's voice, the more physically assertive women think he is. One reason women prefer men who speak in low voices is that vocal pitch is partly related to physical size. Taller men tend to have lower voices because they have longer vocal tracts and vocal folds, the main determinants of pitch. The other reason women prefer men who speak in low voices is vocal anatomy is thought to signal a man's level of testosterone, a hormone linked to physical and sexual prowess.
Tip # 9 - Don't talk too much
There is a saying - "a man of few words is a man to be respected". Talking too much and being argumentative not only betrays your nervousness and lack of confidence but very often people who talk too much talk themselves right out of even the little spark of interest that was there. So approach all your communication with a specific purpose and objective and that is to connect. You can be a dynamic, effervescent and charismatic person if you learn how to share yourself in easy to swallow doses. Women will appreciate your liveliness but even more your mysteriousness.
Tip # 10 - Believe in yourself
Don't allow yourself to play into society's superficiality and all that thing about all women prefer taller guys. There are many women who prefer guys they can look at eye level, guys they can kiss without having to stand on their toes and strain their necks; guys they can put their arms around the waist or hold their faces in their hands etc.
It's not just about height, it's about your sense of self and how you present it to the world.