How Just How Much Fun Are You To Date?
In the dating scenario, it boils
down to the bare fact that human
kind by nature is an adventurous
species. People are attracted
and fall in love with those
people who ooze that “adventure’
potential. This pertains to
those who are funny, sexually
confident, and have an air of
mystery on the side.
If you feel good about yourself
as a man or woman, even your
date will feel good about him or
herself. So just how much fun
are you to date?
1. I allow myself to make
mistakes, realizing that we all
learn from failure.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
2. My value as a person
depends greatly on what
others
think of me.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
3. Whether I’m celebrating a
success or getting through a
rough period, I “reward” myself
by overeating, drinking too
much, or going on a spending
spree when I am already in debt.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
4. I have trouble asking
others for favours and tend to
apologize a lot.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
5. I’d rather keep an
unsatisfactory item than return
it to the store. In a restaurant
I’ll eat a meal, even if it
isn’t what I ordered, rather
than return it to the waiter.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
6. I berate myself for saying
or doing the wrong thing,
calling myself “stupid.”
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
7. I would do something
against my better judgment
rather than risk another
person’s disapproval.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
8. When I look at myself in
the mirror, I see only my flaws.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
9 I think of how my life
would improve if only I were
smarter or better looking.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
10. I graciously accept
compliments and praise instead
of tossing them aside.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
11. I do things which
nurture, strengthen and relax my
body.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
12. I am able to accept my
vulnerable feelings like
sadness, fear or anxiety.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
13. When I need comfort, I am
able to turn to friends or
family and let them know how I
feel.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
14. I am comfortable
expressing my angry feelings.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
15. I am able to assert my
needs and wants with family
members, colleagues or my
partner.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
16. I recognize and value my
need for solitude or “quiet
time.”
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
17. I actively pursue and
maintain friendships with people
I truly like.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
18. I balance my life with
pleasure and fun, recognizing
that I work harder when I am
well rested.
a) never or hardly at all
b) sometimes
c) frequently
d) very often
SCORING
Now add up all your points as
shown below.
Question 1: a-1, b-2, c-3, d-4
Questions 2 through 9: a-4, b-3,
c-2, d-1
questions 10 through 18: a-1,
b-2, c-3, d-4
RESULTS
1-18 POOR
You probably already know that you rely heavily on other people’s opinions and find it hard to assert yourself in your personal life. You spend too much time wondering if your date is having fun...chances are that he or she isn't. Because you are so anxious to please others, conversation lags on a date and your dates frequently are awkward, and often end early. It could be that negative experiences in past relationships have made you wary about romance. Or maybe it is simply your natural shyness or lack of self-esteem that lead you to become inhibited and withdrawn with new people.
Either way, try to examine what the source of these feelings are because they are stopping you from being the adventurous fun person that you really are.
19-36 FAIR
Although you make sure that you honour your commitments to others, you are often self-critical and overly demanding of yourself and of others. You are quick to blame when things go wrong. Somehow, your self-critical and overly demanding attitude makes it difficult to make the leap from small talk to real conversation, and your dates rarely lead to real romance. For example, if your date inquired about your dating history, you would be extremely offended because it is none of their business. And depending on your personality, your attitude towards dating is 1) dating is a necessary evil, so you sort of tolerate your date rather than enjoy him or her. 2) dating is a fun way to spend free time, so you flirt outrageously and never call your date again.
Learn to be more tolerant of your own mistakes and the mistakes of others. And try to relax and think of a date as an opportunity for great conversation rather than as a pressure situation. Dating can be fun and interesting, and a great way to meet new people.
37-54 GOOD
You're on the right track, with the right style and the right attitude. You know who you are and what you need to be happy and usually are willing to take the time to do something that will fulfill you - and I bet you're a pretty good dresser as well. Although you might not be the most charming date, you know how to show someone a good time. You also know how to make it clear that you want to see your date again, which is a very rare skill. Just make sure to keep everything light and friendly. You should also be open to offering a few details about yourself; the better impression your date has of you as a person - faults and all - the more likely they'll want to see you again.
55-72 EXCELLENT
Congratulations! You belong to a rare breed: people who have developed a knack for dating. You've found a great way to set the tone for a fun, relaxed dating experience. You understand that connecting with someone emotionally and making conversation are critical elements to getting to know someone, but you aren't afraid to tell jokes and keep it light. Even if the person you're with doesn't seem like your dream partner, you consider it worthwhile to get to know them and to enjoy a pleasant, memorable time together. Being a fun date is a great skill, and it probably means that your dates generally want to see you again. Lucky you!
If you took the quiz and your score doesn't really tally with how your dates progress and end, then may you need to take the quiz again, and this time be honest with yourself..;))
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