Many people with tremendous potential will never realize their dream relationship, simply because they give into the influences of the wrong people. They choose to spend their times thinking and talking about why something cannot happen instead of how it can.

Others choose to take relationship advice from friends. While friends may be dependable and well-intentioned, it doesn’t necessarily mean they know better.

If you really want that relationship, then make sure that the people you take advice from are capable of giving you the advice you need. This is where I, a mentor-coach come ins.

Because I have been there before and have for years, concentrated my energy, experience, knowledge and wisdom in this particular area, I can help you make the most of your relationship worthiness, know when it’s the right time to make a move and capitalize on creating a “uniqueness” that when a man or woman looks back on your time together, he or she may well imagine all the potential for fun, passion, fulfillment and joy that a relationship with you might hold. 

And if you are are in a steady dating relationship (for at least 3 months) and want to learn how to directly, efficiently, effortlessly and very effectively move the other person into a committed relationship, I can advice you on how best to accomplish this next step of your relationship.

If you're in a troubled relationships, or if you want to get an ex back, I work with you to transform conflict into an opportunity to find a new 'edge' and elevate your relationship to a level of happiness rarely seen.

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How am I different from the other coaches?

1) I help men and women cultivate genuine dating and relationship confidence. 

Many coaches out there focus on the "outward performance" of confidence and provide you with tips, tricks, techniques, methods and phrases that will convey admirable traits and qualities. The premise for this approach is that in order for you to appear confident, you ask yourself "What would a confident person do in this situation?" and then learn the "how -to" appear confident. This at first seems like a good idea, but the drawback is that you need to constantly be thinking about what a confident person is (clearly not you!) and think how they'd act.

When you get caught up in the "how-to" of any situation, the "how-tos" become "what ifs" in themselves and you find that you are constantly having to watch everything you say or do.  And while there may not be a problem with controlling and deliberating on the words you use, the effort required with each and every interaction is enormous.  You find yourself always feeling insecure and stressed out because your mind endlessly plays up negative (and discouraging) scenarios in which you never have a clue about what you’re going to say or do next. And when you actually say or do anything it’s just too late sometimes. The damage is done.

Am I saying that learning "outward skills" is a worthless pursuit? Absolutely not. I think they do have their place. But they need to be supported by genuine inner confidence.  If you don’t possess these traits and qualities, any superficial action or words is like advertising when you don’t have the product to back it up!
 

True, lasting and unshakable confidence is real and not just this elusive feeling. My approach to coaching is fostering the inner authenticity and self-acceptance that supports you in developing a dating and relationships style that is uniquely your own -- one that's natural and really attracts and keeps the love we all want and deserve. 

Working on a deeper level permeates to all your actions, which is more efficient than working on action by action, or each part of your interactions as separate components.

When you have inner confidence that matches the outer image you want to present, you'll approach life with an illumined mind and an energetic and dynamic vital and wakeful body. You'll be unstoppable in achieving your life and relationship goals.

My clients report feeling more together, more connected with the deepest aspects of themselves and more fulfilled in their relationships.

2) I view each person as a unique individual.

Common sense tells me my experience and understanding of human nature is limited. You might tell me about your experience but I can only construct my own mental representation of what your experience might be like. In order for me to be able to help you create your own meanings and find your own relating style:

-- I keep an open mind and do my best to be sensitive to all kinds of information about a situation: not just so-called factual information but impressions, intuitions and hunches, including when you express them;
 

--  I am willing and able to see the situation from all kinds of points of view in addition to my own;

--I stay as open as I can be to seeing the situation and not letting my theories, presuppositions and assumptions tell me how I ought to see it;

More and more, I've come to realize that this is very important for my client's well-being.  I've found that dealing with each person as a unique individual helps them operate at a level beyond acquisition of skills and knowledge. It has the capability of bringing understanding into being from sources inside oneself.

3) In my life view, no situation is ever hopeless.

Some of my clients arrive with clear and specific purposes in mind, but most when they come to me the first time feel discouraged , frustrated and almost hopeless.  Many tell me their problems and challenges seem so large that they can't see a away out.  But once we start working together the weight of hopelessness and despair lifts, opening the way for the positive energy.  They find themselves in that ah-Ha moment which comes with a deep sense of inner peace and clarity of thought.  They practically get in a place within themselves where they believe it can happen - and it does happen!. 

Sometimes it's just that you haven't found the right kind of "HELP" or professional you can completely trust and who shares your vision for the kind of relationship (and life) that is fulfilling to you .

4) I care about my clients as human beings and not as money-machines. 

I guess it's safe for me to say, I still have the "human element" in me intact -- and I intend on keeping it that way.

I support you in a very consistent, loving manner. We actually have a lot of fun together (tease, make jokes, role-play etc) while we focus on what's important to you.  Many of my clients find themselves looking forward to our coaching session each week.  They accomplish more with less effort and stress because they make better decisions when they can run their ideas by an objective listener and celebrate their "wins' with someone who holds their highest vision for a fulfilling relationship. 

5) I teach a wholistic view to relationships and sexuality; one that integrates the actions of body, mind, and spirit in order to create a balanced, healthy, loving, responsible, respectful and harmonious life.

One of the critical human problems that now exists as a result of the unbalanced relationship between our dominant use of the analytical mind and our declining ability to experience and use the feeling mind -- is men and women who are "brain smart" but physically inhibited, emotionally repressed, afraid of intimacy, uncomfortable in their own skin, and too afraid and even resentful of the opposite sex. 

The advantage I have -- compared to other coaches teaching the wholistic model -- is that I have had 42 years head start on deeper connectedness, healthy sexual awareness and feeling good in my body. This is not something new to me that I learned by reading a book or attending a seminar, but rather it's a way of life I was born and raised into and which I teach with a natural ease.

While most people equate wholistic relating and intimacy with specific types of practices and/or techniques, I teach it as the life force that sustains and unites -- the gift of being present and an openness in everyday life. 

What this means to you -- as my clients -- is that you are opened up to a whole new way of BE-ING that allows you to really experiment and experience relationships and intimacy in a more life changing, expansive and truly fulfilling -- body, mind, and spirit --way.

Can't you do this on your own?

Some people do turn their lives around just by reading good self-help books and/or internet articles but I personally have observed that there's something about the power of investing in working directly with a professional you trust and who shares your vision for a fulfilling life that gets you over your initial inertia and sets you up to create the relationship of your dreams.

1) On your own, you have no second opinion. One of the biggest challenges of being single is actually being alone with your thoughts for the majority of time and, sometimes, to your own detriment. That's why even I, a seasoned coach, turn to business coaches and consultants for help with my own private practice. And it's making a huge difference in my business!

2) On your own, you are lost in the dating jungle. While there is some benefit in reading self help advice and books etc the real value is in internalizing this information and applying it into actions.  In coaching, I create create situations/exercises that turn knowledge into actions making it easier for you to learn as your  internal strength and confidence develops. The cumulative effect builds momentum and keeps you going until you have unshakable internal confidence.  Many of my clients make remarkable progress in relatively short time spans.  

3) On your own, you find it hard to get out of your comfort zone. Similar to physical fitness where if you push yourself beyond your comfort zone and do four or five push ups more, even if that's all you can do, that's something and you're beginning to build strength. In a similar manner, if you work on improving your self talk or self image for just one minute each day, you can build you internal confidence and inner fortitude but you need to get out of your comfort zone to do this -- and sometimes you need someone to give you that extra push.

Recently I pushed one of my clients to really hunker down, get serious, and define what she was all about. And then, just when she'd almost given up ... she met a wonderful guy - just what she always wanted. We both know that she wouldn't have done that without a little push. Once you step out of your comfort zone, real progress can begin to take place.

4) On your own,  you are secretly intimidated. Along with that comfort zone comes a sense of what you think you can and cannot do. And often we don't even admit to ourselves where we stop. It's certainly OK to be afraid -- if you can push through your fears. I will give you specific steps to deal with intimidating situations and support you throughout the process- and you actually see your life getting better..

5) On your own, you have no accountability. The best part of working with a coach is that you have a structure to stick to -- and accountability for your promises. You actually need to show up and say to another living human being what you've done and what fell through the cracks - that's powerful medicine for those who are inclined to procrastinate.

6) On your own, you have no discipline to follow through. We all have the tendency to give up when we experience a setback or a loss. Yet, that's just when we need to hunker down and move forward, because that's when we can find great lessons ahead. I take it very personally to see to it that you keep getting up and trying again.

7) On your own, you sometimes find it hard to get started. Many singles are often afraid to even begin, and sometimes don't even know where to begin. They know they want to meet someone special, but they just can't seem to get started. I have a lot of experience in helping singles over the hump to the point where you can forge ahead on your own. Think about it -- if you really want to meet someone special and you are doing nothing about it, who is?

People who are willing to commit time and financial resources to making change happen are more willing to dig in and do the work necessary to bring about their desired change.   With powerful insights and loving support and encouragement, they conquer their procrastination, fear of rejection and self-doubt and steadily grow their sense of adequacy, self confidence and dating resourcefulness.  They find within themselves the courage to get out of their comfort zone, explore possibilities, rediscover the qualities within that enable them to achieve anything, chose well and open the way for love to come to them.  
 

You too you can get started on a new, exciting and fulfilling life! 

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