1. Believe in yourself. Before you can find someone to believe in you, you must first believe in yourself.  People who are confident in themselves typically draw confident people to themselves. They are people who others simply want to be around.

2. Deal with personal issues that limit your ability to deeply connect with others. In order for you to be more confident, you must deal with the individual fears and worries that prevent you from really being your best self. This includes letting your skepticism from failed relationships go. You can only fall in love when your heart is open.

3. Genuinely love the opposite sex. It is easy to date with confidence when you see the people you date as individuals with tremendous worth. When you give of yourself without expecting anything in return your confidence in your  dating skills increases.

4.  Be realistic about your expectations.  Your soul mate will not magically appear; you must be willing to work to create a soul mate. You may need to change your approach and not the people you chose or date.  When you let go of your preconceived notions you will find someone who exceeds them.

5.  Get "Out There".  Don't limit yourself to bars or online dating sites.  Go out and do things outside your comfort zone.  The best way to meet someone you are compatible with is meet him or her doing the same things you love doing (sports, gyms, dog walks, groups ,dancing etc). And don't neglect the possibilities of people you already know. Let trustworthy friends (and relatives, if you're brave) know you're looking, and allow yourself to be set up. You may be pleasantly surprised!

6.  Encourage and lift others up. People who are successful at dating and in relationships typically make others feel better about themselves. When you lift others up, you feel better about yourself.  Give e more than just love and affection;  encourage the other person's growth and development.

7.  Believe in the goodness of others.  Most people want to be loved and to be happy, and do not intentionally harm those they love. The majority of things that trigger feelings of hurt, in close relationships, are reactions from fears, worries and from past hurts.  When you meet someone who loves you and you love him or her, make a leap of faith, believe that the other person wants you to be happy.

8.  Commit all the way.  If you want to be in a long-term relationship, you must accept that it’s not all about you anymore. It is only when you invest fully in a relationship that you can experience the depth of true love.
 

9.  Take it easy.  Dating is supposed to be fun and sharing of happy times.  Laugh with each other and at each other's mistakes without offense being taken and without putting each other down.  People who grow together enjoy each others strengths and weaknesses.

10.  Be patient. Love takes time. Don’t expect it to happen on your schedule.

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